You know I really thought that it would hurt worse than this, but I guess I had built up a thresshold to the pain. Don't get me wrong, I am still mourning but...
hello all, last night me and my guy were intimate. it was great - he initiated and said he felt safe, and his behavior was congruent with his words. after, we...
Well Natalie, I'd say it's NOT common, but I am no expert- most survivors are NOT this in touch with their inner feelings and the need to address things and be...
I hate this. I hate not seeing him when I get home. I hate not being able to just chat with him about whatever, whenever. I hate thinking of a bunch of...
Thank you for putting into words how my heart has felt. I started to hate the poeple that did the things to her that she was not able to cope with. then over...
P.S. forgive all the typos-Argh!!! And in this statment I mis-represented something; I sad, "...Hope and faith and belief.. these are wonderful things, but...
As I sit at my brother's computer I'm still left with so many thoughts. How was I supposed to be prepared for the onslaught that has come my way? I was never...
Thank you John. Even though I doubt she will ever be a part of my life... I never gave up either- still haven't. It's all me though. A "badge" as someone once...
Something struck me about the comment that it is your choice. I have made very similar choices all of my life. I have noticed that many if not all of the...
Something struck me about the comment that it is your choice. I have made very similar choices all of my life. I have noticed that many if not all of the...
Wrap hate in paper All the bad words underline Toss it in the fire. Watch the flames crackle Hungrily eating the hate Leaving only sad... I'm sorry.May you be...
Jason, your words about loving ME struck a chord with me and lie at the heart of my dilemma. If I recognize MY worth, if I recognize MY needs, if I recognize...
Of course your words brought tears. Sort of like when I share something with my parents that I thought I was okay with but just the sound of their voices bring...
All right, I wrote this when I was still consumed with the dysfunction thinking that there was a chance of beating it. I know that there are ways of...
You know Carrie, "Allies in healing" suggests that a partner should give themselves permission to leave, and that it would be good to have that feeling, even...
I remember about a year and a half into the marriage, things started getting bad enough that she told me that she was thinking about leaving me. Said that she...
I'm a survivor looking for a support group online as nothing to my knowledge has been established in Ottawa. I also am at my wits end in my nearly two year...
Roxi, I myself am a survivor, I think it is such a difficult thing for a partner to understand. (Partners please correct me if I am wrong in any of this) I...
Daisy and Roxi- I haven't posted in awhile, but I have to take issue with your analysis of most POS's. I think most of us are not in denial and really do...
Hello all, I've been reading some of your posts for a few days. I'm new to this POS life, sort of, and could use some rather immediate help. I've been dating...
Mike, I agree with alot of your points but would like to get your opinions on some of my thoughts. ... I think this depends alot on the age/experiences of the...
Daisy, Could you elaborate on your response (below)? Mike says that the more a partner helps, the more the resentment from the survivor. You, on the other...
I agree with Daisy. From the survivors point of view, we're the ones who have been traumatized and now are expected to function normally and be the best sexual...
I still say the best three books are: The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans Sex for One by Betty Dodson The Survivor's Guide to Sex...
I would feel that dealing with someone who has MPD or is DID that dealing with their personalities can he healing. However, allowing the individual to...
I agree Bill. We ALL need to take care of ourselves first and foremost. The problem is ... where to start and when to stop. I would figure that any time is a...
Yes Roxi, I agree, but survivors often don't work with the same set of (reasonable) rules that we mostly do.BTW welcome to POS.I'm not posting much lately b/c...
Mike wrote: We POS's are loving, giving, and caring individuals in general, who would do just about anything to help our loved ones get through the "hell" they...
Hi everyone, have n't posted much recently but still check in from time to time... Roxi wrote;- ... Unfortunately its not that simple.... i agree that ...
Hi Scott here - 43 year old CSA survivor. I'd just like to add to what Aly says below that sometimes EVEN when we KNOW we've been abused - we don't necessarily...
