Thanks so much for replying, Christopher. ... I'm the adult child of an alcoholic and have a survivor path I've been walking for many years. My mother, the...
... Your welcome ... Did they align, in the wrong ways, in that, there is/was some 'enabling' behavior going on? ... It sounds like, they BOTH, are in...
I'm 34.She is 33.Basically we went out for 8 months .The first 2-3 months were great!No problem we got along fine-really clicking.Kind of scary in fact.No...
... You might suggest that you both get into couple's counseling. That way when you discuss some of the issues in your relationship, a good therapist will see...
Hi again, Christopher. Thanks for writing. ... some 'enabling' ... Definetly enabling behavior on both of our sides. ... I think you're right on both counts....
... Simon, I had to read what you wrote a few times. It rings so true. I don't think I would have seen it that way while I was in the midst of it, but now...
... would still work on his healing - but it is beginning to feel to me like putting an alcoholic around alcohol. Does that make any ... I think I understand...
... or ... all ... way when you discuss some of the ... of past CSA. She will remember it ... and this is not something you can ... cant ... cousin ... lesbian...
... Your welcome. ... WOW!!!! ... I thought so. ... That is typical and, the only way to stop that cycle, other than getting out of the relationship, is by...
... You need to start setting 'boundaries' about, how you are being treated. ... She is a mess. ... It sounds like your ex has DID(Dissociative Identity...
You are strong and you will make it. I will be thinking about you and hoping you can tap in to your inner strength to hold on through this hell.... r_bidwell...
... lesbian "now" seems to indicate ... lesbian because of the abuse. Straight ... would be a hell of a lot more gay ... boys is sexually ... to do with...
... First, there's no such thing as a "lesbian or gay lifestyle" anymore than there's a heterosexual lifestyle. You can have a bohemian lifestyle, a miserly...
... about ... anymore than there's a heterosexual ... a flamboyant lifestyle, a ... All those people share something ... may be nit-picking but to call it a ...
... Those who think it's a choice are bisexual and are choosing to focus on one gender rather than both. Although being bisexual does NOT mean you have to have...
... be ... focus on one gender rather than both. ... each gender. That is polyamory. Then there are those who would prefer not to put a label on their ...
Whether your ex or g/f was SA or not, if she has asked you to give her some space then you must try to respect that. While many of the behaviors you describe...
... to ... SA ... lot ... See that is the problem.She wanted space so I gave it to her and moved on with my life.(no hard feelings). She is the one that wants ...
She may be testing you. As I mentioned, if you can be a friend to her first, it will make things a lot easier. Although she may be sending you mixed/confusing...
I sit and watch her leave even though I am not there to watch her. Different houses may as well be different sides of the nation. She has to leave, I...
... Simon, That is very touching. The way it is worded, it could even work for a relationship where, the individuals are unscathed by the heinous behavior of...
I am so sorry, Simon. It's not fair or right. I'm sorry you're hurting. You and she both are in my thoughts and prayers and my heart goes out to you. Brenda...
I've been journaling every day, several times a day, to just keep my brain from eating itself alive. I seem to be vacillating pretty heavily between healing...
Thank you, but I am alright. I am actually getting over the sadness, and there are so many questions that I know will never be answered, but I can wish her...
You see I think I finally came to terms that it is all about love. When I met her, that was the product that I was selling. Knowing myself, I would not sell...
