Sounds like you're living in a battle zone... and the problem is, you are both on the same side, only M can't see that. In her battle against all that she...
I see his romance with the other woman as a "protective amulet"... something he wears to protect himself from what it is he fears in regard to what you offer...
i just wanted to say thanks for listening to me .I was kinda venting..i felt better after doing this. there is alot of things i dont under stand but i am going...
What do I do? The survivor that I care about has a birthday coming up on the 7th. It's only been a few weeks since I got the heave-ho out of his life. And it...
Send it/them.What have you got to lose?You show you care but have been rejected anyway, due to this crap.If your gifts are rejected, there will be no change,...
"It's only love and that is all, why do I feel the way I do? It's only love and that is all, but it's so hard loving you, YES< IT'S SO HARD LOVING YOU, LOving...
Send it. But as you write it, understand that what you are giving is a free gift from your heart, with no expectation of reciprocation or return contact....
Of course no strings are attached! It would take a really sick person to try to manipulate the feelings of a vulnerable person like that! What I am concerned...
Sorry...didn't want to imply that you were manipulative - I know I myself would always unfortunately hang out for some reciprocation: a smile, an invitation...
Now I'm the one who is sorry... I simply recoiled at the thought. Guess that's another one of MY issues - defensiveness. Please accept my apologies. ... ...
Sorry to bore on. I am still confused. S just came out of two weeks of Mr Hyde type mood. Horrible. It followed some sex. She was just horrible, so cruel and...
Look at it this way: if he was "just a friend" for whom you'd never had romantic feelings and you knew nothing of his past, you might acknowledge his birthday...
This is a terrible situation to find yourself in and unfortunately there's no easy way out. If you tell her you'll likely be seen as abusing her trust, if you...
Ok, I have yet to get the card, but I'll go ahead and do that. I'm thinking about how to deliver it. At this point, I have the option of mailing it, or...
You answered your own question---you just want to send a few warm fuzzies, so mail the card and don't deliver it with balloons.Quietly and without fuss...... ...
Thanks Keith. No, it won't be easy, and may not even be possible, but thanks. I am at this point starting to think that maybe I can see all this from another...
Thanks Kathy. In my more rational moments, I know this to be true. I'm trying like heck to drag my attentions back to me, to make certain I'm taken care of...
I'm an engineer - thus not really inclined to open adoration, but I shall make an exception this time. KATHY YOU ROCK ! Tell your friends, tell the mailman,...
Luke, Welcome to the group. I've justed joined this chat group myself so I cannot give any advice except be patient, be very patient. Ow, that and know if...
Difficult answer - ain't that always the way ! I am looking for a list of psychiatrists who are experienced (and successful) in the field of adult survivors of...
Bill, And I thought I was the only person who could resort to macabre humour while being subject to abject misery and hopelessness. You're an inspiration to...
It seems we have much in common, lol.Also, I am extremely proud to call Kathy my friend, and to tell you that KATHY ROCKS!!! is indeed true.She has helped me...
*Blushes*... your words do me honor. Helping others has become part of my own healing process... saying "you've made my day" doesn't come close to how I feel...
Sign me up for the Kathy Rocks Club too. She is totally awesome. Without her S would have not had enough comfort in the possibility of abuse to stop denying....
CR_Pau, Mind if I ask how old your wife was when she left Denialsville. S is 36. And I had been asking for two years if she was abused. Blood from a stone....
I just went to a shrink to try to get some good advice. And...well...he showed me more stuff about me. He pointed out that due to my own history, I am a shape...
Hi Kathy, Thank you for taking the time and effort to write such a long response. I've read and re-read it a number of times over the last few days, letting it...
Dr. Richard Behmoiras in New York City is French and may be able to recommend an English-speaking therapist in France (assuming you need English-speaking). ...
