Thanks for the response and thanks for letting me know that what I wrote had some extra meaning for you. Dave ... I ... being ... her. ... for ... kids ... ...
My wife is a survivor of family sexual abuse. Our marriage has often been very difficult. One thing that has been consistant is her anger at me in many areas...
BB_Friendly: This is not uncommon. Your wife's anger is not at you, but you are the only one she feels safe expressing it to because she knows, deep down ...
... Ok ... Selfish? How is she perceiving this? ... It sounds like, she is perceiving you as the abuser, instead of the person you are. ... HOLD THE PHONE,...
Yes, your life is a carbon copy of mine. :-( This is very common indeed, and as many here will testify is heartbreaking. It's hard to do or say much beyond the...
Don't let it eat at you. Yours is a carbon copy of mine. I was married for 5 years together for 10. I could never do anything right in her eyes, no intemacy,...
nope you are not alone, i live with the same kind of sh*t from my DH ( not dear ) Anyone start to think that these are cotrol issues as well? I had a Taro...
My husband and I are both survivors, although I see his as being more tramatic them mine. His father was the sexual ped, from age 4 to around 15. Mine was my...
Dear Cyn, I love psycic readings but be careful of those reading taro cards. But I too agree about the contol issues. I think they have to take their anger out...
... that for ... Thanks for being condesending, i really don't have enough of that in my life and need more. Feel free to ignore my posts from now on it won't...
To: Rita, Shelly, Chris, Anthony, Christopher, Cyn, Ang and Pretty G. Thank you all for taking the time to give your thoughtful, kind and insightful responses...
Hi B, I can't make recommendations or give you a game plan because everyone is different, but I can share my story with you and you can draw what you want from...
... Hi B.May I butt in here? All survivors seem to have rage as a deep well inside themselves.I don't feel it will do you any good--in fact the reverse--if you...
Hello.. My name is Rob. I have a girlfriend that was abused in a variety of ways, and I love her very much. I wasn't abused at all, and I just want her to be...
I don't feel that being a survivor of ANY TRAMATIC event gives anyone a legitimate excuse to "go off" on anyone. It isn't a free pass to be abusive. If you...
Ang - no negative response here I totally agree with you, and could not have said it better. best Cyn ... anyone ... be ... call ... well ... her ... saying ...
My name is Sashua, I'm 26 years old. My husband, to whom I've been happily married for 3 1/2 years, was sexually abused as a child, by his father. We have...
Sorry B, My response really didn't answer your question. You should always speak your piece in a clear, concise, normal tone, loving way. We do not do our...
I can totally appreciate you wanting to "confront" your wife on the things that are happening. One of the things you have to toy with is accountability for...
Welcome Sashua, I'm 36 and a survivor married to a survivor. We too have done all sorts of counseling. The only disappointment I have had is everyones...
Dear B, I can tell you what worked for me..... I put it to him like this....... I said it's obvious that we aren't meeting eye to eye lately, maybe we can use ...
Thank you for your response, ang. I hope that I will find some comfort from relating to others. My biggest trouble now is that my husband is so ANGRY all of...
I am sorry to hear that you are the recipient of his anger. This is something I really can't relate to. My husband isn't anger and doesn't take it out on me. I...
... While this may be the case(it is not uncommon), since, you both, apparently agree about the therapist(not addressing the issue of anger) has she pressed...
Hello. My husband was molested when he was six, and then again when he was eleven. He hid it for almost thirty years, telling only me- mentioning it once...
First of all, welcome. I have been out of the loop here for a few weeks, but your story has so many common threads. First of all, my heart goes out to you and...
Hi Everyone, I just wanted to write an open letter, to see how we were all doing and offer some encouragement. Awhile ago it seemed that there was so much...
